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Talking About Suicide

You can help prevent suicide with candid conversations. They show support to the individual and help break down mental health stigmas and barriers.

Mental health is a universal concern that can affect anyone.

If you notice someone who seems down, sad, lonely or uninterested in normal activities or get-togethers, reach out to them and ask them how they’re doing. It may be an uncomfortable conversation, but it’s essential to prevent suicide.

On “What’s the 211?” podcast, Brandon Johnson, MSH, host of The Black Mental Wellness Lounge on YouTube, talked about the reluctance to talk about suicide.

“Like suicide is such a heavy topic. I totally understand that, but as we see our rates in specific communities continuing to rise, it’s important that we understand that suicidal ideation is real.”

Two people having serious conversation

When talking about suicide, choose words carefully. By changing the language, we can ensure that people are comfortable discussing the topic and feel hopeful.

“...we want to change the language. So, people feel that they can have the conversations in a safe space and not be harmed, initially just by the language before they even have it as a chance to experience the potential for hope and recovery,” Johnson explained.

Also, avoid generalized characterizations of people and avoid slang. Johnson explained,

“So, we may say this person’s OCD or this person’s acting bipolar, or this person is schizophrenic, without actually taking into consideration what that really means and how stigmatizing that is to a person who may be bipolar, right? Who may be schizophrenic, who may have OCD. In trivializing, their experiences to a slang term use, usually interrogatory to someone else is, is something that can be damaging even down to suicidal ideation.”

Dad talking and supporting his teen

Talking to Teens

It can be challenging to talk with a teen as they're going through a lot socially, emotionally and mentally.

If they're struggling with how they feel about themself, it can be even harder to have these conversations.

Amy Ocasio of the LIVEFORTHOMAS Foundation, talked about the struggle of talking to her children.

“So, I definitely found struggles with finding that balance because with both of my kids, I’ve learned that if I let them come to me, that they’ll talk. If I started asking questions, that’s when they just kind of shut down.

So, it was finding that balance of how much do I push? When do I pull back?”

She emphasized the importance of language, and empathy as a parent. She said she found it’s important not to dismiss, downplay, or minimize what her child was saying. Sometimes what may seem trivial for an adult, is monumental for a kid.

“You know, just listen. You don’t even have to understand like, okay, I don’t understand why this is a big deal, but you know it is to my child. So, let me find out more about what’s going on and ask them, you know, what do you need from me? Like what will be helpful for you in this situation?” Ocasio explained.

Adolescence is a time of risk and opportunity. Suicide is one of those risks. It’s the second-leading cause of death in young people between the ages of 10 and 24, according to the Centers for Disease Control.

A child who's never dealt with their mental health before may experience challenges as an adolescent. Social pressures, bullying and sexuality are all reasons why.

Talk to your teens about their mental health, and look for warning signs of a behavioral health concern.

If they need help, connect them with 988.

How To Talk To LGBTQ+ Youth

At least one LGBTQ+ youth between the ages of 13 and 24 attempts suicide every 45 seconds in the United States.

When someone comes out to you, support the individual, show love and be present.

The Maryland Department of Health, Office of Suicide Prevention suggests supportive phrases like:

  • “Thank you for sharing with me. What does your identity mean to you?
  • “I’m so happy you told me, and I want you to know this won’t change our relationship in any way.”
  • “I’m really excited for you.”

Make sure you send support, rather than denying what the individual said to you. Do not refer to it as a phase. Show support and listen.

Also, use LGBTQ+ affirming language in conversation with others. Eliminate gendered language like “you guys” and replace it with “you all.”

Two teens talking on way to basketball court

Mental Health Questions To Ask

It’s ok to talk about suicide and mental health. Be ready to listen!

Before you start the conversation, create a safe space to talk. Ask open-ended questions, and start the conversation with a phrase like "I've noticed."

The Maryland Department of Health and the Maryland Office of Suicide Prevention recommend phrases like these:

  • We haven’t talked in awhile. How are you?
  • You seem down lately. What’s going on?
  • I’m worried about you. Is something wrong? I want to be there for you.
  • You haven’t been yourself lately. Are you ok?
  • Is there anything you want to talk about?

It’s essential to listen and show that you care. Support your family member or friend by getting together with them or checking in on them.

You’re not expected to provide advice, but you can refer them to professionals or free and confidential resources like 988.

 

Professional Talk Therapists

While it's essential to connect with friends and check in on their mental health, consult an expert if you have a concern. 

Psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” can effectively reduce suicide risk. One type is called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT can help people learn new ways of dealing with stressful experiences by training them to consider alternative actions when thoughts of suicide arise.

Another type of psychotherapy, called dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) has been shown to reduce the rate of suicide among people with borderline personality disorder, a serious mental illness characterized by unstable moods, relationships, self-image, and behavior. A therapist trained in DBT helps a person recognize when his or her feelings or actions are disruptive or unhealthy and teaches the skills needed to deal better with upsetting situations.

 

 

Warning Signs

Knowing the signs of depression or mental illness is important in preventing suicide.

Signs of mental illness may begin to appear when an individual is a teenager. In the “What’s the 211?” podcast, NAMI Maryland said signs are typically observed around age 25 to 30, at the latest. But, it can impact someone at any time in their life.

Kate Farinholt, Executive Director of the National Alliance on Mental Illness in Maryland (NAMI Maryland), said,

“The difference between having a mental health issue and having a mental illness, it’s a sort of a sliding scale. So people can contact us often because they are anxious, depressed, stressed and want to get information about how to deal with that.
And it might be temporary, but getting a diagnosis of a mental illness is complicated and there’s no easy test to let someone know if they actually have a mental illness and where it might also be a reaction to some kind of physical disorder. Each mental illness has its own symptoms.”

Common warning signs include:

  • excessive worrying or fear
  • feeling excessively sad
  • having confused thinking or problem concentrating
  • extreme mood changes can make a difference
  • self-isolation
  • pulling away from things that used to give you joy
  • ability to carry out daily activities
  • inability to handle daily problems or stress

A chemical imbalance or situation often causes mental illness. A divorce, stress, loss of a loved one, family situation, environment, or a chronic medical condition can all contribute to a mental illness. There may be a number of causes of this illness.

Who Is At Risk?

Suicide does not discriminate. People of all genders, ages, and ethnicities are at risk for suicide. But people most at risk tend to share certain characteristics.

The main risk factors for suicide are:

  • Depression, other mental disorders, or substance abuse disorder.
  • A prior suicide attempt.
  • Family history of a mental disorder or substance abuse.
  • Family history of suicide.
  • Family violence, including physical or sexual abuse.
  • Having guns or other firearms in the home.
  • Incarceration, being in prison or jail.
  • Being exposed to others’ suicidal behavior, such as that of family members, peers, or media figures.

The risk for suicidal behavior also is associated with changes in brain chemicals called neurotransmitters, including serotonin, which is also associated with depression. Lower levels of serotonin have been found in the brains of people with a history of suicide attempts.

Many people have some of these risk factors but do not attempt suicide.

 

Finding Support

Call or text 988 for immediate support.

You can find professional mental health support in your ZIP code by searching the state's behavioral health resource database, powered by Maryland Information Network

Youth may find support in a general behavioral health or suicide prevention program or through a teen-focused program like MDYoungMinds or Taking Flight.

MDYoungMinds is a text support program through 211 and the Maryland Department of Health, Office of Suicide Prevention. It sends supportive text messages focused on teen and adolescent mental health concerns and stressors.

Taking Flight is a peer support program with young adult leaders (aged 18 to 26) who have personal experience with behavioral health concerns or trauma. They empower young adults with weekly virtual meetups and social media peer support.

Learn from experts

Also, consult other resources for ideas in talking about mental health and suicide, like discussions from mental health experts like Johnson. He has a series of discussions with school counselors, a child psychiatrist, and other experts covering topics like supporting a family member with their mental health, using mindfulness meditation to support your mental wellness, racial trauma and transforming your pain into passion.

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